Here are some things I really, really wish I knew when I was twenty.
- Love hurts, but not as much as not loving.
- The friendships you nurture will have a greater effect on your life than where you work or what you earn.
- You are not your job. You are not your bankroll. You are not the sum of your possessions
- Few decisions will ever shape your future life more than who you choose to marry. To marry well, you must choose well
- Love is a commitment.
- Find a passion. Pick a hobby, own it: photography, juggling—whatever. Get your 10K hours of perfect practice in early and change your life
- Don’t bother comparing yourself to others—this only leads to heartbreak, anger, and disappointment.
- Don’t drive others to meet expectations they’ve committed to — lead, inspire, and help them do it.
- Don’t set expectations for others when they haven’t or cannot commit to them.
- Don’t complain. Either change your situation, learn to cope, or change your perspective
- Don’t worry about making big bucks out of the gate, worry first about doing whatever you have to do excellently.
- Failure is an opportunity: no great man or woman ever achieved significance without great failures to learn from.
- Everybody needs an editor. Everybody.
- Get your work done first so you can play without guilt. Even better, make work play and the fun never ends!
- If you’re bored, you’re doing it wrong.
- Nothing in this life—no pain, no agony, no failure—compares to the eternal joy of Heaven. Live in light of eternity
I’m still learning — in fact I haven’t fully appreciated most of the list I made, myself. And I’m still adding to it. But I’m getting better.